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Why a Mastermind Group?

A good Mastermind group can change your life.  There is no better way to navigate the difficult challenges in life, and in entrepreneurship, than the collective experience of others.  When you surround yourself with smart and engaged people who share your view of life, you are exponentially more powerful than you alone.  Mastermind groups allow us to tap into our shared know-how and wisdom to help each other solve problems together, or keep us accountable to achieve the goals we set for ourselves.

The concept of the Mastermind Group was formally introduced by Napoleon Hill.  In his timeless classic “Think & Grow Rich,” he wrote about the Mastermind principle as:

“The coordination of knowledge and effort of two or more people, who work toward a definite purpose, in the spirit of harmony.”

He continues…

“No two minds ever come together without thereby creating a third, invisible intangible force, which may be likened to a third mind.”

You’ll gain tremendous insights, which can improve your business and personal life.  Your Mastermind Group is like having an objective board of directors.

You will receive:

 – Experience, skill and confidence

 – Real progress in your business and personal life

 – An instant and valuable support network

 – A sense of shared endeavor – there are others out there!

Steps to Create your Mastermind Group

1 Choose the Right People

Because of the group nature of a mastermind group, a commitment is required.  Look for highly motivated people who are willing to ask for and give help and support.

You want 2 to 8 people who:

 – Share similar experience levels

 – Share similar ambition levels and desires for achievement

 – Share similar values, beliefs and ethics

 – Are positive and forward thinking

2 What Type of Mastermind Group are You?

Topic based – Formed around a specific topic such as weight loss, fitness etc.

Mission based – A group with a shared singular mission.

Business – To help members grow their business, regardless of niche.

Goals and Accountability – To help members keep themselves accountable for their goals, business related or not.

3 Define Your Purpose

Once you’ve identified your group type, define the group’s purpose.  Write a mission statement such as:

“The purpose of this group is to keep each other accountable with one common purpose – Be the Best We Can Be.  We will meet weekly on line to check in with each other, review our annual goals and the progress we are making toward achieving those goals.  Through our combined mind power and network we help each other to live for our purpose and reach our highest goals.”

4 Develop a Formal Agenda

Set a schedule and stick to it so that your meetings are as productive as possible.  Rotate the meeting leader and time keeper each meeting so that all members share this responsibility.  Also have a note taker.  Some groups start their meetings with a prayer or a grounding exercise.  Ask each member to share what successes or challenges they have had since the last meeting (1 to 2 minutes max).  This is a wonderful way to celebrate and encourage each other, while also staying updated with what is going on with each member.  Have each member state the goals for the upcoming week and any help they require from the other members.  Assign the leader and timekeeper for the next week’s meeting.

Demartini – Turning Setbacks into Comebacks – Part 1

Dr. Demartini shares how to transform what you PERCEIVE to be a setback into a catalyst for GROWTH.

Did you know that there is ONE question you can ask yourself to help you transform ANY setback into a comeback?

I am sure that, like every other person on this planet, you have experienced something that you perceived as a setback. Perhaps it involved your grades at school, not getting into the college or university of your choice, a relationship that did not turn out to be what you had hoped, or maybe even a lack of financial or business achievement that you had anticipated or planned for.

Perhaps you chose to work through these setbacks by trying again or working harder. Maybe you began blaming others for the role you perceived they played in your setback. There might even be a story that you are running in your head about how others have it “easier” than you or that you may as well give up because you never seem to catch a break.

I would like to give you an alternative view today – something tangible that you would be wise to consider using every time you face something you perceive as a setback. I am certain that it will assist you in transforming these setbacks into comebacks.

There are only three things that you have control of in life: your perceptions, your decisions, and your actions.

Not only do you have control of these three things, but you can also change them:

-Your PERCEPTION of the event that you call a setback.

-Your DECISION regarding what you decide to do; and

-Your ACTIONS around it.

So, while you may not have control over what has happened on the outside, you do have control of your perceptions and decisions on the inside, and of the resulting actions that follow.

As a result, you are not ever a victim of your history but instead a master of your destiny.

No matter what happens to you, you have the ability to change how it is in your mind.

I teach a course called the Breakthrough Experience and have seen people come in with all kinds of situations that they perceive to be setbacks.

One of the things I do is give them a new set of questions to ask, so they:

– Become conscious of things they were not conscious of.

– Balance out perceptions that they thought were “IN the way”; and

– Turn the same experience into something that is “ON the way”.

If something happens that you see as a setback, you are choosing to see the downsides and not the upsides.

It would be wise to ask yourself: “What are the upsides to this happening?” or “What would be the downsides if this hadn’t happened?”

For example, “What would be the downside if my parents had stayed married when I was younger?” or “What was the upside of my parents’ divorce when I was younger?”

Both questions will assist you in getting to the point where you are balanced in your thinking and grateful for what you had previously perceived as being a setback.

I am not promoting positive thinking but balanced thinking.

When you can find the downsides to the things or fantasies that you are infatuated with, you can release the distress, have the setback dissolve, and balance your thinking. A depressive setback is often a result of a comparison of your current reality to a fantasy you are holding on to about how it could or should have been.

Let me give you an example. Let us say that you become infatuated with a woman who then leaves you. Instead of focusing on all the ways she was “perfect”, imagine that you then began to look at all the downsides to either her or to your relationship with her until you are no longer infatuated but instead neutral and balanced. As a result, you will tend not to be resentful or unhappy, nor will you tend to give the relationship valuable real estate in your mind.

So, it is not about positive thinking but instead about bringing your thinking back into balance:

– If you perceive more drawbacks than benefits or more downsides than upsides, then you may need to come up with benefits or upsides.

– If you are infatuated with somebody or something, you may need to come up with the downsides or negatives to breakthrough your unrealistic perspective.

Balancing out the equation is what liberates you.

Anything that you are infatuated with occupies space and time in your mind and runs you, so you need to see the downsides to set you free. Anything you resent where you see downsides without upsides, also occupies your mind and runs you and here you need to see the upsides to set you free. It all depends on what the original setback is.

If you have lost someone that you are infatuated with, you may need to see the downside of the individual that you are attached to and the upside of them being gone.

If you are resentful of somebody, you may need to see the upside of why they are coming around you and the drawback if they were to go away. If you take those two sides and balance out the equation, there will be nothing there except an event that you are now grateful for.

In other words, a perfectly balanced mind is more objective and becomes grateful.

Adaptability comes from a balanced mind.

You are not adaptable if you are highly infatuated with something because you fear the loss of it.

You are not highly adaptable if you are resentful of something and fear the gain of it.

You are likely to only be set free when you have a balanced mind and neutralize your seeking or avoiding.

In the Breakthrough Experience, I teach the Demartini Method which is a series of questions that equilibrate the mind and liberate you from the bondage and baggage of emotions that weigh you down, which you label “setbacks”. In this way, you are likely to be free, resilient and adaptable to whatever is happening.

If you have a perfectly balanced mind and something has been taken from you, you are likely not to feel devastated or stressed, but free.

A perfectly neutral mind is what liberates people from the stresses and the setbacks. Or, as I like to put it, a setback is nothing but an imbalanced mind.

Sometimes, the setbacks we have in life are not even setbacks but comparisons of fantasies that we are addicted to.

If you hold onto a fantasy about how life is supposed to be, then what it is may tend to feel like a setback or challenge.

It is for this reason that I am a firm believer in balancing out the mind.

Once you balance your mind, you are likely not to even see a setback, only an opportunity.

You will tend to find the hidden order in your apparent chaos, and actually be grateful that it happens.

I often say that anything you are not grateful for, somehow you have a skewed view of. If you balance out your mind, you are likely to experience an abundance of gratitude.

Again, a perfectly balanced mind is grateful.

When someone sees the balanced hidden order, they will not even perceive a “problem”. They only thought they had a problem when they imbalanced their thinking and perception.

By asking the question: what is the upside if you are down, and what is the downside if you are up, balances it out and liberates you, and then you tend to realize there is nothing there except “thank you”.

No matter what is going on in your life, a master is able to turn whatever is happening into an opportunity.

It is just about asking the right questions because intuitively balanced questions help you see unconscious information. The second you change your perception, your decisions of what to do with it change, and your actions change.

Then, if you choose prioritized actions that are inspired and that are according to your highest value, you are likely to have the most resilience.

“How is whatever I’m experiencing right now helping me fulfill:

– What I value most?

– My mission or purpose in life?

– My inspired vision?

If you ask that question – no matter what is going on – you might be surprised that you are able to see things as being “on the way” instead of “in the way”.

You may not see it at first, but if you hold yourself accountable to look and discover what that is, you will tend to realize that this thing that you perceive to be a setback was not actually a setback but an opportunity.

When you are living in alignment with your highest values, are more objective and embrace both challenge and support in your pursuit of what you feel is your purpose in life, you are likely to have way more resilience and no longer experiences challenges as “setbacks”.

As a result, you will tend to be more adaptable and flexible, and no longer see gains or losses. Instead, you are likely to live in a world of transformation.

Why do redundant daily actions that are not inspiring to you when you can free yourself up to do those inspiring actions you really love, that are more meaningful and productive and that provide greater opportunities for other individuals to do the same? 

Dr. Demartini shares his views on why learning the art of delegation can help you live a more inspired, productive, meaningful, and financially rewarding life.

Eckhart on Low Self-Esteem and Anxiety

QUESTION: I’m 34 years old and have a good job and a good home; I’m married to a wonderful man. I have bad anxiety, and I have no idea what I want from my life. I have low self-esteem and I get defensive easily. I’m rarely content or grateful. My thinking is so negative. I need approval from others.

ECKHART: This doesn’t seem to be a question but there’s a question hiding in there. First, I’d like to congratulate the questioner on her self-knowledge because she is aware that she’s anxious. Not everybody who’s anxious knows that they are anxious. They are just taken over by anxiety, and it is virtually their normal state. If you ask them, “Are you anxious?” they reply, “No, I’m not anxious.”

The question, “I have no idea what I want from my life,” looks like the beginning of the place of not knowing, which is good. “I have low self-esteem,” indicates that you have the awareness that you have low self-esteem. “I get defensive easily,” again, this indicates that you know that you get defensive; the question is… in the moment of getting defensive do you know that you’re getting defensive, or do you just know it afterwards? “I’m rarely content or grateful,” is a good self-observation, too. “My thinking is so negative,” is another good piece of self-knowledge. You can ask, in this moment, what other thoughts are going through my head?

If you apply this awareness to the present moment when these things arise – defensiveness, low self-esteem and anxiety — you’ll see that certain repetitive thoughts in the mind are the voice in the head that tells you – this is low self-esteem. There might be certain emotions that go with the thoughts, but the basis for low self-esteem is the thoughts that you tell yourself about your low self-worth. The questioner knows that she has low self-esteem, and if she can recognize the thoughts in the moment of low self-esteem arising, she may realize the repetitive, conditioned thoughts are not necessarily true. Perhaps, the low self-esteem started in childhood – it often happens to people whose parents are very critical or tell them they are never good enough. It might have started there; it’s a conditioned way of thinking.

The awareness that’s already present in the questioner needs to be there in the moment when these thoughts arise — to recognize them as thoughts — and then, you are no longer completely trapped in what these thoughts are saying. In other words, your sense of being is not in the thought anymore; it is in the awareness of the thought. To use an analogy, the vastness of the sky is your awareness and the clouds are your thoughts.

Remain the sky (the awareness) and allow the clouds (the thoughts) to come and go. You are the awareness behind the thoughts. This applies to any kind of negative thinking – it arises, you recognize it as automatic– it’s a thought. You are the awareness that knows this (low-self esteem) is a negative thought pattern. This way you are no longer feeding the conditioned thinking, so you are taking your identity out of thinking and no longer renewing old patterns.

If your awareness can grow, which means deepen, because it’s already there to some extent – then those conditioned patterns will diminish and get transmuted.

Another point mentioned in the question: “I get defensive easily,” defensiveness happens very quickly in human interactions; it’s an automatic pattern. You may only recognize it afterwards, and say, “That was defensiveness again.” These are all ways the ego tried to protect itself– the ego being the mind-made self. Defensiveness will come up with any lie just to keep its ego identity intact.

A Course in Miracles has a lovely saying, “Whenever you become defensive about anything, know that you have identified with an illusion.” That’s interesting. For example, you say that the distance from here to the moon is 350,000 kilometers or so – and the light takes just over one second to travel from the moon to the Earth. Then somebody else says, “No, that’s completely untrue; it actually takes one minute.” This is just a difference of opinion, but you know that the other person is wrong. If you say, “No, that’s not right,” is that defensiveness? It depends on how you say it. The question is…are you identified with your mind, which has a position that happens to be true, but are you identified with that mental position? Do you derive your sense of self from thought? If you’re identified with the thought, you will get angry and defensive with the other person who is completely wrong and you might say things like, “You always doubt me.” That’s the ego trying to protect itself.

The A Course in Miracles saying applies because you have identified yourself with an illusion. The illusion is not that it takes one second for light to travel from the moon to the Earth; the illusion is that you identified with the thought — a mind pattern — so you are strengthening an illusory identity by strengthening your mental position– that’s unconsciousness. This shows how a difference of opinion can degenerate into a huge conflict because the ego becomes defensive. Alertness is required on your part, so that you know when the ego arises.

The key is your awareness. When awareness deepens all those patterns you mentioned will weaken. There’s already a considerable amount of awareness in this questioner. The awareness isn’t the person, but it’s deeper than the person. You apply the awareness to the present moment when things arise, but not in some abstract way, for example, “Will I ever become a person who is not negative? I can’t get rid of my patterns,” that doesn’t matter; this moment is what matters. So just apply your awareness to this moment; you can’t change things into mental constructs – “How can I change, I don’t want to be that kind of person anymore?” Forget it! This moment is where you apply Presence. I sometimes say, “The sword of Presence that cuts through time.”

Joe Vitale Raw

My most recent global interview was raw, intimate, inspiring, practical, personal and surprising.
The host said –

“This was a magical episode — really, truly amazing. Please give Joe my tremendous thanks, was truly a pleasure to spend time with him and he is welcome back onto the show anytime. Easily in our top 10 best episodes ever.”

You can hear it at –

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Expect Miracles.

Ao Akua,
Dr Joe

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Be Slow In A Hurry

My dear friend Michael Abedin, publisher, author, editor, and so much more, passed away last month. I wrote this article for the tribute issue of his magazine, Austin All Natural:

“Take Your Time in a Hurry” Or, As Fast as Wayne Newton, As Slow as Wyatt Earp By Dr Joe Vitale

“Can I see the revolver?”

I’ve known Michael over ten years. We’ve shared everything from Cuban cigars to old Scotch, fast cars to great books, spirituality to marketing, Reiki to Bach Flower Remedies, to our lives personal ups and downs. He was the greatest storyteller I ever knew.

I had him MC my events, like Attract Money Now Live and the Advanced Ho’oponopono retreat. He was also the MC when I performed as a singer-songwriter on stage at The Townsend in Austin with my Band of Legends. He also published my feature articles for more than ten years, and put me on the cover of his magazine, Austin All Natural, more times than I can recall.

We got together often, and shared our struggles and triumphs, usually over a bottle of aged Scotch.

Once Michael visited my home and wanted to see the old Colt six shooter I own. It used to belong to actor and bodybuilder Steve Reeves. It was part of my collection of Reeves memorabilia. I had the revolver and the leather belt Reeves wore in spaghetti western movies like A Long Ride from Hell. Michael knew it and was eager to see it.

Michael put on the belt and put the gun in the holster. It fit his tiny waist. He looked ready to be in a Quentin Tarantino movie.

He walked around with attitude, the leather gun belt low on his hip, and looked like he was about to step into the O.K. Corral. With his long hair, boots, and jeans, he fit the part of old cowboy. Or an eccentric modern one.

Being Michael, he repeated advice from Wyatt Earp.

“Fast is fine but accuracy is final,” Michael said, paraphrasing the famous gun-slinging sheriff. “In a gun fight, you need to take your time in a hurry.”

“Take your time in a hurry.”

Michael and I loved the phrase.
It was a Zen-like reminder for every aspect of life: slow down but be aware.
Act but be present.
We both had a drink of Scotch to toast the old lawman and his wisdom.

“Have you ever fired it?” Michael asked, holding the Colt.

“Never,” I said. “It’s just part of my Steve Reeves collection. I never intend to actually use it.”

Michael stood and practiced his fast draw. While he convincingly looked the part, he wasn’t ready to be in a duel. He fumbled several times. The gun seemed to stick in the holster. Michael looked frustrated. He really wanted to get this right.

Because we were such close friends, I pulled out my phone and started filming him. That made him even more self-conscious.

He tried a few more times, doing his best to consciously will himself to be calm. He wanted to “take his time in a hurry.” He used his three decades of martial arts experience to center himself.

But he still withdrew the revolver too slow or too fumbling.

In a real gunfight, he’d be smoked.

“Pretend you’re Wayne,” I suggested.

“Wayne who?” he asked, his hand on the pistol.

“Wayne Newton,” I replied.

Michael stopped, his mouth agape, his eyes searching mine for meaning.

“Wayne Newton?” he repeated, baffled.

“I mean Wyatt Earp.”

“How did you get Wayne Newton out of Wyatt Earp?” he asked.

I shrugged. I didn’t really know. I was just trying to get him to loosen up.

I pointed to the now half empty bottle of Scotch.

Michael shook his head, took a deep breath, calmed himself, and pulled the gun out of the holster. It was smooth.

“Be slow in a hurry.”

Fast.

Easy.

Smooth.

He did it again.

And again.

Once he had the maneuver down pat, he stopped. But he spent the rest of the evening wearing the gun belt. We sat at the kitchen table, finishing our bottle of Scotch, talking, sharing, all with the gun on his hip.

On one level, it was surreal.

On another, it was simply Michael being Michael.

I loved him.

I miss him.

I comfort myself thinking Wyatt Earp, Steve Reeves and a long line of other greats, are gathered around Michael and listening to his stories. Maybe even watching him practice his quick draw.

And him reminding them, “Take your time in a hurry.”

Ao Akua,

Joe

Attract $175,000 Today

In 1931 Vash Young inherited a fortune.

This was during the Great Depression in the USA when much of the country lost jobs, savings, hopes, dreams, and more. Young was so grateful for his inherited fortune that he spent his entire life sharing it.

Last week I inherited his fortune.

Let me explain.

A friend of mine in the Miracles Coaching program told me about an old book he found that he thought I might like. But he couldn’t recall the title or author. He was obviously moved by the book. I’m a bookaholic, so I was interested, even without all the details. I asked him to send me the book’s info when he came across it. I didn’t think any more about it.

But last week my friend sent me a package. Inside was the mysterious book. The title is A Fortune to Share. The author was Vash Young. I had never heard of the book or the author. Since I was busy with projects, such as scheduling the launch of my new audio program (The Abundance Paradigm), and already had fifteen books to read either on my ipad or my desk, I just put the book aside. It would have to wait.

But the book wouldn’t wait.

Something about it called me to it. Maybe because the book was from 1931 and looked like a lost gem in self-help and self-improvement; maybe because I love success literature and this title seemed like it was from that category; maybe because I hoped the author had been a friend of a man I wrote about from that era, Bruce Barton, in my book The Seven Lost Secrets of Success; maybe because the author put a spell on the book. I don’t know. But before I knew it, everything else got pushed aside and I started reading A Fortune to Share.

Within minutes, I was captivated.

The book is written in the first person, with the author talking to me about his fortune and how it changed his life. The old Young of poverty and reckless living was gone; the new Young was now so rich that even the Great Depression couldn’t touch him.

His mission became the life-long quest to share his fortune with others.

I was riveted.

Young explained that you own a factory. Most of the time you make junk in that factory. As a result, no one buys from you. No wonder you were broke and struggling. No wonder life looked bleak. Your factory wasn’t producing what anyone wanted.

He went on to explain that the same factory could make gold.

Gold?

How?

In your mind.

In your mind!

As it turns out, the fortune Young inherited was the gold inside himself: his ability to control his thoughts, beliefs, moods, and attitude. He could let the factory of his mind create a life that was miserable, or he could take charge of that factory and get it producing new thoughts, beliefs, moods and attitude that he and others would want.

He inherited a mental fortune.

As long as Young accepted his fortune and shared it, everything he wanted would come his way, and without trying to make it happen.

Young literally did attract a financial fortune (he sold over $80,000,000 in life insurance) due to his discovery and his sharing. He went from a life of go-getting to a life of go-giving. (He later wrote a book titled The Go-Giver.) The more he gave, the more he attracted. His mission truly became one of sharing the mental fortune inside himself to awaken your own understanding that you have a mental fortune inside you, too.

While it’s easy to wish that Young’s fortune was all cash and he shared it by writing checks (which he often did, just not to you or me), what he actually gave us is something far more valuable: he pointed out you have a cash-making machine in your head.

In short, we attract “junk” when we think from selfishness and fear; we attract “gold” when we think and act with love.

A Fortune to Share contains much more information, and many wonderful stories. It’s a hypnotic read. Breezy. Easy. Fast. It also delivers some unforgettable wisdom, such as:

“Any experience can be transformed into something of value.”

“Prosperity can not be built on fear!”

For a long time, Young would hold “Trouble Day” every Saturday. He would let anyone walk into his office, dump their troubles on him, and then Young would do his best to help the troubled soul with his philosophy, and often with money.

In talking to an unemployed man one day, Young tells him, “You haven’t been unemployed all these months, you have been working for the wrong boss. You have been working for failure, discouragement, fear and worry and the sad part of it is that there has been no salary for your labors. You seem to be destitute, but I am going to tell you how to become rich overnight. I want you to deposit the following thoughts in your mental bank tonight: ‘I am not afraid – I am a success, not a failure – I have an inexhaustible supply of courage, energy, confidence and perseverance.‘”

Young helps the man out with a suit of clothes and a little money, and reminds him to draw on his new mental bank account when he needs it.

Within a week, the man has a job he loves.

Young’s first book was so sincere, helpful and timely that it became a national bestseller. He followed it with several others (which I have yet to read but eagerly await), including The Go-Giver, Be Kind to Yourself, and Let’s Start Over Again. All were bestsellers. All were booster rockets for a weary country suffering during the Great Depression of the 1930s. When Young was in his seventies in 1959, he wrote a final book summing up his philosophy of life, called Fortunes For All.

I found Fortunes For All and read it. Loved it, too. On the cover the publisher says, “Let Vash Young show you that your mind is worth $175,000 or more!”

How can your mind bring you $175,000?

Here’s the secret:

Young explains that instead of asking, “How can we have more?” we should ask, “How can we be more?”

He then invites you to try an experiment:

“Go off by yourself with a pad and pencil and write out your own ticket for a happy and successful life. By that I mean put down all of the things you would like to have or be.”

He adds, “After imagining every wish has been granted, then go one step further. Start in being the ideal person you think you would be if you had everything your way.”

Young’s philosophy of fortune basically said that once you began to be that happy, successful person now, then you would naturally attract all you wanted from the being.

Sounds a whole lot like step four in my book, The Attractor Factor, and step five in my book Attract Money Now, where I suggest you “Nevillize” a goal to help bring it into reality.

In other words, feel what it would be like to already have the thing you want or be the person you long to be. Feel it now.

But Young is also wanting you to be something greater than a satisfied person. He wants you to embody the traits of – dare I say it – God.

Decades ago in Houston I gave a talk where I encouraged people to think like God. I said God wouldn’t think in terms of lack and limitation. Why should you?

But Young wants you to act like God, meaning live love, compassion, forgiveness and all the other positive, enlightened states that a God would have.

Be God.

Young was a great believer in taking action, too.

A chapter on selling in Fortunes For All proves that he sold such a staggering amount of life insurance by focusing on giving, thinking of others over himself, and following his being principle. But he also took non-stop action. Even when Young was on jury duty for three weeks, he still held the sales record for the month. How? He kept taking action.

All of this is so inspiring and powerful that I wish Vash Young was still alive so I could thank him in person. But I’ve inherited his fortune. And I’m sharing it with you. I’m hoping you will now share it with others, too.

Take control of your mind and you can live a life of magic and miracles – a life of good fortune.

It’s Vash Young’s inheritance.
It’s my inheritance.
And now it’s yours.
What do you think, anyway?
What is your factory producing?
Who’s the boss of your own mind?
Who are you being?
Enjoy your new fortune.
Ao Akua,
Joe

PS – Be sure to pass your fortune along to others by telling them about Vash Young, his books, and this blog post’s message. Together we can share the wealth, and make a difference in the world. Thank you.

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Appreciate Yourself And Grow Your Self-worth…

Have you ever awakened in the morning and felt like you didn’t appreciate yourself to the fullest? We all have moments of self-depreciation or moments of not loving ourselves for who we are.

Every individual lives by a set of priorities or a set of values, a list of things that are most important to least important in our lives.

Appreciate Yourself by setting goals that are true to your highest values

Whenever we set a goal that is aligned and congruent with what we value most, our highest value, we increase the probability of achievement. Our self-worth and confidence go up and we believe in ourselves. We walk our talk and we tend to expand our horizons because we give ourselves permission to do greater things. We wake up our leadership capacities.

The blood glucose and oxygen goes into the forebrain, the executive center, where we have inspired visions, strategic planning and self-governance. When we have more objective reasonable goals we tend to achieve it more easily.

But whenever we set goals in our lower values and we try to set goals that are not that important to us, primarily as a result of comparing ourselves to other people and trying to be somebody else, we tend to achieve less goals.

Emmerson said:

“Envy is ignorance, Imitation is Suicide.”

The moment we try to compare ourselves to other people instead of comparing our own actions to our own highest values, we end up self-depreciative.

Why?

Because we are setting a goal we “think” is important to us, but it really is not. We are setting ourselves up for a fantasy because we are admiring somebody and injecting some of their ideals in to our lives and trying to be somebody were not.

“The magnificence of who you are is far greater than any fantasies you might impose on yourself.”

The second you set goals in your lowest values because of your comparisons to others and injections of other peoples’ values into your life, it clouds the clarity of your own values. When your own highest values are clouded you automatically set goals in your lower values, less fulfilling values.

You activate with blood glucose and oxygen the amygdala area of the brain. This area of the brain want to avoid challenge and seek support, avoid difficulty and seek ease.

So if it’s an easy goal you will do it! But if it becomes challenging you will give up.

This results in self-depreciation.

Buddha said:

“The desire for that which is unavailable and the desire to avoid that which is unavoidable is the source of all human suffering.”

We end up suffering because we’re striving for a one sided world. Biased goals that are not objective, where you desire pleasure without pain, ease without difficulty, will leave you with feelings of not loving or appreciating yourself.

Instead it is wiser to embrace the responsibilities, accountabilities and challenges it takes to achieve greatness.

When you are embracing both sides of life, goals that are more objective and aligned with your highest values, you have a better chance of achieving it.

When you achieve your goals your self-worth goes up!

You self-worth goes down when you set goals in your lower values!

When you live according to your lower values you:

-Shrink and don’t get around to do the tasks set out for the day

-End up procrastinating, hesitating and frustrating yourself on your goals

-Actually go to smaller immediate gratifying objectives and end up in sense not loving yourself

The key to love and appreciate yourself is setting real goals, truly objective goals, and goals that are truly yours.

To do incremental actions on a daily basis and to fill your day with high priority action, builds your self-worth. Doing something that is meaningful and inspiring each day will help you to appreciate yourself for who you are.

Then when you do achieve your goal, you appreciate and love yourself for what you can do. You go out and accomplish more and you make a difference in the world.

“Make sure the world on the outside don’t dictate to you what’s important to you on the inside and what is really meaningful to you.”

Fill your day with high priority actions that inspires you, and your day won’t fill with lower distracting uninspiring priorities.

One is inspiring – one is despiring!

One builds your self-worth – one erodes your self-worth!

When you’re eroding your self-worth and beating yourself up or not loving yourself, you feel as if the world is against you. You feel thing are in the way instead of on the way.

It’s important to priorities your life and stick to the things that are most meaningful and inspiring to you if you want to love yourself.

 

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How To Increase Your Energy Levels

Often people carry around so many tasks in their mind that they think they have to do, should have done, could do etc. The mental energy expended just thinking about this never ending to do list can leave you feeling drained, lethargic and completely overwhelmed.

To paraphrase David Thoreau:

Most people are living quiet lives of desperation, not invigorating lives of inspiration.

In other words not doing what they love nor loving what they do. They aren’t grateful so they are putting on the brakes in life and lacking the energy and vitality to live.

The body and mind are inseparable in their interactions. We need to be accountable for how our psychology may be affecting our overall health.

A short pencil is better than a long memory

In today’s fast paced world it is essential we learn how to delegate and not try to take responsibility for everything. I suggest putting this imaginary list on paper, reviewing it and then separate what only you can do from what you know you can give to someone else to do. Once you have done this you will not feel as overwhelmed and immediately more motivated.

Energy levels and Age

I have come to the conclusion that the level of energy one has in life is not so much connected to age as it is to state of mind.

Naturally when someone is coming to the end of their life and may be more susceptible to disease, they may not have the same reservoir of energy and vitality as someone in their middle ages. But I have seen human dynamos at age 94 to 99 still out doing people half their age.

The difference was their attitude and zest for life. They found what they loved to do and they do it.

Lack of energy

The people who are most at risk of ‘suffering’ a lack of energy are those who do not feel like they are living purposefully. People who tend to feel lost, overwhelmed and out of focus often lack energy. They are scattered and trying to live other people’s lives.

Simple solutions to have more energy

1. Know where you are going:

Your energy soars when you are clear on your aim and direction in life. When your heart and soul are guiding you energy abounds.

2. Delegate low priority actions

3. Be Thankful:

When you are grateful for all that you have rather than dwelling on all that you are lacking, you will discover a very powerful source of energy. Count your blessings daily.

4. Eat Moderately

Many people try to perk themselves up by pigging out but this is definitely not the way to do it. It has actually been shown that if you eat less you have an increase in vitality and overall energy. Biological research also shows people who eat less live longer. Walk away from the table a little less full and you will have a lot more spark to do the things you want to do.

5. Eat wholesome nutritious foods:

Become aware of what you eat. Be sure to “eat to live” not “live to eat”.

6. Drink Water

7. Breathe fully and deeply

8. Connect your vocation with your vacation:

If you aren’t doing what you love and loving what you do you have the brake on all the time.

9. Smile:

Smiling can change your physiology and make you look up at life.

If you’d love to learn more about a living with more energy consider Dr Demartini’s brilliant CD: Adding Life to your Years and Years to your Life.

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Increase The Probability To Achieve Your Goals

Have you ever achieved or completed a long sought goal and then immediately felt a surge of confidence and began setting the next new one? Probably so! It can be quite exhilarating to accomplish and achieve significant goals in life.

But, did you ever notice that for this next goal that you set out to achieve, you probably raised the bar on it and made sure it was a bit more challenging. Our expectations and standards tend to climb as our goals become accomplished.

Some philosophers have even claimed that nothing of our senses tend to satisfy our soul. Our soul just keeps striving upward and onward possibly even toward what some have termed as the ‘infinite’.

Goals have a way of climbing in height

Goals have a way of climbing in height from those that are more easily reachable and almost immediately attainable to those that take either more effort and / or greater time. In most cases it has been shown that as our ability to attain our goals grows so does our confidence. In some cases we can even begin setting goals that are unachievable.

“How high can you climb you might ask yourself?”

That is a great question, for some have achieved some seemingly unbelievable feats. Often their sheer determination and patient perseverance have seen them through to their desired outcomes.

Misaligned goals cause disappointment

But, is there a part of us that can set goals that are unreal, misaligned with our true higher values and therefore unattainable. As a result we set ourselves up for an internal moral dilemma, the big let down, a crash or a feeling of defeat and burnout. This can and has certainly happened to some.

It is like in the sport of gambling for some people. If they win they probably bet again and often a little or lot more goes into the pot. But the odds are not really in the favor of the gambler. So the emotional high from their wins can become the very source of their lows the moment they lose.

Most people can handle approximately 10% fluctuations in their emotions without too much reaction. This means if they gain or lose 10% of their money they can handle this predicament without being too elated or distraught. But when those percentages climb higher so do their emotional reactions.

Set reasonable, moderate and realistic goals as you make your climb

So when your setting your goals, which I am assuming you already know are very powerful and useful in living a more fulfilling life, set them with reason and graduate them moderately and realistically as you make your climb. Make sure they are realizable and set on stable and steady ground, for the higher your expectation the greater your let down can become.

This is not to say that great expectations are not healthy. They can be. But they must be backed up with firm planning and methodical actions.

Goal planning worksheet

To assure that you have set reasonable goals, work through a goal planning worksheet to make sure that what goal you have set is truly achievable in the time frame that you have set it in. Work through any possible obstacles that might arise.

Guidance or mentorship from someone who has already been there or done that can be immensely helpful.

The more details that you plan the less likely you are to fail and the more you are able and likely to achieve.

A master of achievement is one who plans and focuses on ever-finer detail. If you can see your desired outcome in your mind in perfect detail before you begin your actions the more likely you are to achieve it.

It is wiser to climb one step at a time than to attempt to leap across huge gorges. By the inch, it’s a cinch. The seemingly unattainable can become attainable if you see it clearly, plan it methodically and simply stick with it!

If you’d love to learn more about setting goals aligned with your values to achieve more consider Dr. Demartini’s online learning program: Application of Values for Achievement.

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7 Areas to Empower…

There are seven areas of life that we are here to empower:

Our spiritual mission;
Our mental genius/creativity;
Our vocational success, achievement, service;
Our financial freedom/independence;
Our family love and intimacy and continuance of procreation;
Our social influence and leadership; and
Our physical health, stamina, strength and well-being.

Any of these seven areas that we as individuals don’t empower will become overpowered by others. So any area of life that we don’t empower, somebody else will overpower.

We are not victims of their over-empowerment, we are simply not empowered and it is their over-powerment that in turn initiates and catalyzes our drive for inner-empowerment.

As Nietzsche proclaimed, we all have the will to power. Just as we as individuals have these yearnings for these powers, so do collective societies and nations. But now their descriptions also have to expand:

Our individual spiritual mission now becomes the dominant, spiritual/religious ideologies of a nation.
Our mental genius becomes our educational system.
Our goals for achievement and success become our GDP, our corporate entrepreneurial and national business development.
Our economics become the wealth of our nation, income per capita, again the stability of our national economics and the assets.
Our family stability is our marriage and divorce ratios and our fertility / mortality rates.
Our social influence is our influence on other nations around the world and our leaderships and
Our physical health and wellbeing becomes our healthcare systems, policing systems and military strength.

Now if a nation does not empower any of these seven areas, that area can be overcome and overpowered by other nations or groups. This applies to nations just as it applies to individuals.

The will to power and empowerment, although assumed to be about race, creed, colour, age or sex isn’t in fact limited by these factors.

There is always somebody from each race, creed, colour, age or sex that empowers their lives and is not overpowered.

It’s all about empowering yourself

The first step in empowering each of these areas is education. Success leaves clues and those individuals as well as those nations that have risen in power need to follow these clues. Awakening to and owning these traits and, developing and furthering these traits, and awakening these traits in each of the seven areas of life can both empower individuals and nations.

If we blame outer circumstances for why we are not empowered, we will hinder our empowerment, but if we start acting and doing the things that are proven to empower, we rise in power.

Instead of having individuals or nations sitting in the shadows of other individuals or other nations, it’s wise for individuals and nations to recognise that nothing is missing in them,particularly in their areas of competitive advantage and that they are just not acknowledging, awakening or honouring the powers they have.

Once they awaken these powers and recognise them, through awareness and education, each competitive advantage that each individual or nation has, can shine.

If we as individuals and nations concentrate on what we do have, and recognise our power and use it wisely, we will not become overpowered.
The moment the individual or nation realises that nothing is missing inside them and they value themselves, so does the world.
Empowerment is not what corrupts, it’s the fear of being overpowered that corrupts.
The anticipation of loss of power corrupts, not the gain of power.
Dr. John Demartini is a human behaviour specialist, educator, author and the founder of the Demartini Institute.
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